Shelbylchance

  I never finished high school just got the GED.   So did I drop out or did I just finish high school early?  I got my cosmetology license so I’m a hair stylist.  So did I end my career at that? I became a mom.  So did I add a job/label to me? I got the information that I could go to college for free. I figured sure, people in other countries would kill for that opportunity.  So walked in to test to get placed.  I scored so low I had a year’s worth of non-college credits to pass before I even could start my road.  During those years I could say I learned a lot, and lost a lot but my biggest thing that did happen that wasn’t going to be obvious.  Was the lame word of forcing “dedication” in my life. The sticking through and messing up friendships, missing out on family outings. Sitting through history class thinking wow, I’m missing out on money refusing to do a highlight so I can learn about buddhism that has nothing to do with my degree....

We all know what hardships are, and when we experience them it obliviously changes us. Changes us for the better, or maybe even changes us in a way that will turn our whole life around. A way we did not even think we would go down, like "that scary road". When I say "that scary road" I mean complete 180 of who you are, who you thought you are. The way you hold yourself, the way you think, and the new wants in life (career, home, adventures ect).  I have changed so much in the past year and a half. Soon maybe I will open up to explain further to you readers on how I have changed but for now I am opening up about a season of life many my age do not have to go through.. Today in Tempe, at the Hayden Library I found a quiet spot. This spot has the most comfy chairs, very large beautiful windows looking down on all the ASU students and to the left of me there is a "Cultural Expressions of Grief and Death" Subject. Well, here it is a book finding me that is spea...

I’ve missed you all, and thanks to the ones who’ve reach out for me keep blogging.  Sometimes you need time to breathe, to become inspired, to sit back and soak in all your accomplishments. People will drain you, and I mean like literally drain you. Examples 1) I get 1 full day off a week ladies, one of my half days last week I got new garage doors installed, I was told a set price so now I’m “prepared” with the funds needed for it. Well get this the guy upped the price after all installation is done, no paper work was made before so I gotta pay. Boom financial drain, then the guy breaks my grandmas key fob *smack some now financial/physically drain cause my one day off I get to figure out how to get this key fixed and car to the shop. Being the independent woman I am, (still single) I have to do this so called life by myself. Which means now no full day off in 2 weeks.  2) Ive tried to create some friendships along the past couple weeks and what happens? Mental Freakin Drain ...

How are you? Like really how are you?  Now if you are like me when you hear those words you just wanna  lay it all out. But you don't because why? Why?? Since Covid, nobody is okay, even the air feels different. The way all these lives on earth speak and think is different. Where am I going with this? No where really other then hey, I'm here You are not alone and also, thanks for being here with me through the screen. Question perfect timing for Mother's Day Have you been craving time for yourself? WELL. miss I am here to give you permission. (like you actually need it)  Please fill your cup up Doing so will 100% help you and your surroundings. (ya'll are wild out there) Now update all last year I killed it, I did college classes, mom life, granddaughter life (it's a long story), stylist life. etc Now I use to read a lot until well someone came into my life  I got a little distract. ew, am I right? NEXT subject .asap. Get this girls I opened my book up today that I ...

1994- I was born 6th Grade- I became Class of Rep for Student Council,  started drumming, great at drawing. Freshman- High School now pretty smart for school,  yet still in speech classes (low class for English).  I work with one side of my brain from what I believe (literally) Life turned upside down personally. Quit drums and drawing,  got into even more of the wrong crowd. Sophomore- Got elected in Student Government,  and then Dropped out (I know makes no sense)  got my GED, and started Beauty school. 2014 (20 yr old)- Stayed in the hair career,  had a babygirl, became officially single,  did all I could to keep bills paid. Now there are plenty of horrible things I didn’t tell you.  I pretty much just skimmed things off the top of my head to pick. Also, unless you get straight out of beauty school and  think “I’m going to make tons of money, you are just  going to be lost at min wage salo...

Hey girls! It’s 2020! I said I was going to write about being single. So…. Being single past a certain “age” or time in your life Is the same as a scarlet letter I guess.. Right…? I’m turning 26 in about a month, so what Isn't this the most logical time to be s i n g l e? &&& Alll about yourself and YOUR life? To figure out myself and life without a mess of a man? Yes, I said MESS of a man cause  I’m sure you’ve seen what I’ve gotten myself into Many many times….. (speakin to my clients and friends) Since obvi I do not post much about who I'm with on Social Media.. I’m tired of family parties Where you hear “Oh yes, that’s Shelby she finally made it  (I rarely attend family outings) and yes, she’s still single” She’s THAT single mom  News FLASH: I’m totally living the dream of which All you girls wish you had. I pay my own bills with no obligations to anyone. Men ya see if they are single nobody even ques...